Be Kind or Be Helpful — Don’t Be a Jerk

The best thing you can do for a writer is leave a review. A positive review, or even a mid-level review with some insight into areas that need work.

If you come across work that is not up to par, the best thing you can do is contact them privately. Talk to them, be kind and use constructive criticism. Help someone improve and grow.

Don’t write a scathing reviewing that just says, “you suck”, or bather on about their lack of character development. This is not helpful and makes you, as the reviewer, look bad.

Even worse are reviews that really have nothing to do with the work, just — “ I didn’t like it.” How is this helpful to anyone?

My mother always said, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Well I can’t agree 100% I think you should say something, in private to them personally.

You never know what others are dealing with on the other end of the computer. Who they are, nor what their lives entail. Reaching out can save a life, or boost moral, or maybe they’ll tell you to it’s none of your business.

Find out, leave a review — or reach out — or say nothing — and move on. Just don’t be a jerk, there are too many out there already.

Work on Your Dreams

This is for all the youngsters out there … if you have a dream, whether big or small … work at it.

Even if you can only give it one hour a week, do it!

The most important thing that life has taught me — as I climb into middle age- is that life it short. Too short. While tomorrow is never guaranteed you just don’t realize until you wake up at 40 that you just might be half way through life! Never mind half way even, my bones hurt, I don’t sleep well and I still work in retail. Ugh… had I spent one hour a week writing and submitting it over the last 20 years, I just may be more ahead of the game.

So don’t slough time off by telling yourself you have “lots of it” because you really Do Not.

Do one thing, one hour, one day, one submission … anything except ignoring it.

Live your Dreams Now, Be Alive, Be Happy — It’s after-all Your Life.

The Horror of Empathy

Being an empath is not an easy life to live and this is just a little peek into mine.

For anyone that may not know what this means, it is a person who picks up on others emotions all the time. We are extra sensitive to even hidden emotions; we feel what they feel within our own core. And it’s not limited to people, we can pick up animals emotions too. I am keeping the description vague, if you want to know more please google it, there are even tests online to see if you are one, however if you are, you would know it.

I have mostly closed myself off to other people so as not to be bombarded constantly by negative or depressed emotions…Until Now.

Working as a writer and wanting to get my work out into the world, I’ve had to open myself up to Social Media. Now I am on Facebook, Twitter, G+ and Instagram. I am meeting some wonderful people, but I’ve also met some negative draining ones, and worse — hateful people. I never respond to them, I read the comments and just move on. Or if they are mean I block them but it sticks with me for a long time.

Sadly there can be no blocking of the horrific pictures of abused animals or war displaced children. What the general public does not understand is that when I — as an empath — see these heart wrenching images (there is no way I can read the stories) they haunt me … Forever! I see them at night when I close my eyes. They’ll pop into my head at the oddest of moments, like doing the dishes, or climbing into the shower. And they devastate me all over again.

I think at the heart of it all, this is why I write Horror. It helps me cleanse my mind of all the nasty real evil and direct the emotions into make-believe. If you are an empath and have a coping mechanism, please share and thanks for reading.

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